Sex toys deserve as much love and care as the pleasure they bring us. Regular cleaning isn’t just about hygiene (though that’s bloody important). It’s about respecting your body, extending the life of your toys, and keeping infections like UTIs and STIs well away from your intimate bits.
As a psychosexual therapist, I see far too many people dealing with avoidable infections simply because they didn’t know how to properly care for their toys. The good news? Cleaning your sex toys doesn’t need to be complicated or scary. Once you know the basics, it becomes as routine as brushing your teeth (but please don’t use the same brush for both).
With so many different materials used to create these wonderful pleasure tools, it can feel overwhelming to figure out what needs boiling, what needs gentle washing, and what absolutely should never see the inside of your dishwasher. Let’s break it all down in a way that actually makes sense.
Why Toy Hygiene Actually Matters
Your genitals, regardless of what configuration you’re working with, are sensitive ecosystems with their own pH balance and bacterial flora. Whether you have a vulva, penis, or any other genital anatomy, introducing bacteria or irritants can quickly lead to infections, discomfort, and a whole lot of not-fun medical appointments.
Vulva owners are particularly susceptible to UTIs and bacterial vaginosis because of the proximity of the urethra to the vaginal opening. But everyone can develop infections, irritation, or STIs from improperly cleaned toys.
Think of it this way: you wouldn’t eat off a dirty plate, so why would you use a dirty toy on or in your body? Your pleasure deserves better than that.
How Often Should You Actually Clean Your Toys?
Here’s the simple rule: clean your toys before and after every single use. Yes, every time. I know it’s tempting to just throw your toy in the drawer after you’ve had that lovely orgasm and your brain has turned to happy mush, but future you will thank present you for taking those extra two minutes.
If you’re using toys on different parts of your body during the same session, clean them between each area. For example, if you’re moving a toy from your mouth to your vagina, or from vagina to anus, it needs a proper clean in between. Cross-contamination is real, and bacteria from one area absolutely should not be introduced to another.
For people sharing toys with partners, cleaning between users is non-negotiable. Even if you’re fluid-bonded and have unprotected sex, STIs and infections can still transfer via sex toys. When in doubt, use a condom on shared toys or give them a thorough clean between uses.
Common Mistakes People Make With Toy Cleaning
Let’s talk about where people go wrong, because honestly, some of these mistakes are incredibly common and totally avoidable.
1. Not Cleaning Your Toy When It First Arrives
I get it. You’ve just received your exciting new toy and you want to use it immediately. But here’s the thing: these toys have been handled during manufacturing and packaging, can have remnants of machinery oil, and might be covered in dust or factory residue. Sex toys are not required to be sold sterile.
Your genitals are sensitive organs with delicate pH balances. Whatever’s on that toy can throw everything off balance and cause irritation or infection. Always give new toys a thorough clean before their maiden voyage.
2. Not Checking Whether Your Toy Is Waterproof
Most modern toys are waterproof or water-resistant, but not all of them. Before you go boiling your new vibrator or taking it into the bath, check the packaging or manufacturer’s website. Submersing a non-waterproof toy can destroy the motor, corrode the battery compartment, and basically kill your toy stone dead.
Nothing is more heartbreaking than breaking a perfectly good sex toy through enthusiastic but misguided cleaning.
3. Not Drying Your Sex Toys Properly
Water plus enclosed spaces equals bacteria party. If you pop your toy away while it’s still damp, you’re creating a cosy breeding ground for all sorts of nasties you definitely don’t want near your bits.
After cleaning, dry your toys thoroughly with a clean towel or let them air dry completely before storing them. This is especially important for toys with texture, ridges, or any nooks and crannies where water can hide.
4. Using Scented Soaps, Household Products or Bleach
Your toys are going in and around your genitals. Harsh chemicals, scented soaps, and household cleaners can leave residue that your body will absorb, potentially causing irritation, allergic reactions, or infections.
Stick to mild, unscented soap or dedicated toy cleaners. Your vulva, penis, or anus will thank you for not introducing unnecessary chemicals into an already sensitive area.
5. Treating All Materials The Same Way
Different materials require different cleaning methods. Porous materials need extra attention because bacteria can hide in those tiny gaps. Non-porous materials are generally easier to sterilize completely. Treating them all the same is a recipe for inadequate cleaning or damaged toys.
The Material Matters
How To Clean Silicone, Glass & Pyrex Toys
These are the holy trinity of sex toy materials. They’re non-porous (meaning bacteria can’t hide in tiny gaps), body-safe, and relatively easy to clean thoroughly.
For non-motorised, non-porous silicone, glass, or Pyrex toys:
- Boil them in water for 3-5 minutes for complete sterilization
- Alternatively, wash thoroughly with hot water and mild unscented soap
- Some can even go in the dishwasher on the top rack (check manufacturer instructions first)
- Rinse extremely well to remove all soap residue
- Dry completely before storing
For motorised silicone toys:
- Do not submerge in water
- Hold under running hot water while cleaning with mild soap or toy cleaner
- Pay special attention to any textured areas or seams
- Wipe down the control panel and charging port carefully
- Dry thoroughly, especially around any openings
I recommend using a dedicated toy cleaner like Sweet Vibes ‘Foami’ Toy Cleaner, which is gentle but effective and won’t leave residue.
How To Clean Rubber, PVC & Jelly Toys
Here’s where things get trickier. These materials are porous, meaning they have microscopic gaps where bacteria, viruses, and other nasties can hide. You can never fully sterilize these toys, which is why many sexual health professionals recommend using condoms with them, especially if sharing.
Cleaning porous toys:
- Wash thoroughly with warm (not hot) water and mild soap before and after every use
- Use a soft brush to get into textured areas and crevices
- Consider using a spray toy cleaner that can penetrate into small gaps
- Rinse extremely well
- Dry completely
- Seriously consider using condoms with these toys
These toys also tend to degrade faster than non-porous materials. If your toy becomes sticky, discoloured, or develops an odd smell, it’s time to retire it. Don’t risk your health for a toy that’s past its prime.
How To Clean Crystal, Stone & Non-Pyrex Glass Toys
These beautiful toys often have spiritual or aesthetic appeal, but they require gentle care.
Most crystal and stone toys are porous unless they’ve been sealed with a medical-grade sealant. Always check with the manufacturer about whether your specific toy is sealed or porous.
Cleaning crystal and stone toys:
- Clean with warm (not hot) water and mild soap
- Alternatively, use a damp soapy cloth
- Be extremely gentle as these materials can be fragile
- Do not boil or use high heat as this can crack or damage the material
- Rinse thoroughly to remove all soap residue
- Dry completely with a soft cloth
If your crystal toy is porous, follow the same precautions as other porous materials and consider using condoms, especially when sharing.
How To Clean Wood & Leather Toys
These more artisanal materials require special care and attention.
Wooden toys:
- Only purchase wooden toys that have been treated with medical-grade sealant
- Clean like you would a wooden chopping board: warm water and mild soap
- Use a damp soapy cloth rather than submerging
- Dry immediately and thoroughly
- Never soak or boil
- Check regularly for any damage to the sealant
Leather toys:
- These are incredibly porous and difficult to fully clean
- Wipe down thoroughly with a damp soapy cloth
- Pay special attention to any stitching where moisture and bacteria can hide
- Allow to air dry completely
- Consider using a leather conditioner designed for body-safe products
- Use condoms with leather toys when possible
Storage Matters Too
Cleaning is only half the battle. How you store your toys affects their longevity and cleanliness.
Good storage practices:
- Store toys in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight
- Keep toys in individual bags or pouches to prevent material reactions
- Don’t let silicone toys touch each other (they can bond together or degrade)
- Ensure toys are completely dry before storage
- Keep different materials separated
- Store toys away from extreme temperatures
Some materials can react with each other. For example, jelly toys can melt onto other toys or surfaces. Keeping them separated prevents this kind of disaster.
When To Use Toy Cleaner vs. Soap
Both have their place in your toy hygiene routine.
Mild unscented soap is perfectly adequate for most cleaning tasks. Look for:
- No added fragrance
- No harsh chemicals
- pH-balanced formulas
- Gentle, natural ingredients
Dedicated toy cleaners offer some advantages:
- Specifically formulated for intimate items
- Often antibacterial
- No need to rinse (though I still recommend it)
- Convenient for quick cleaning
- Travel-friendly spray bottles
For everyday cleaning, mild soap works brilliantly. For extra peace of mind or when dealing with porous materials, a dedicated toy cleaner can provide additional antibacterial protection.
Special Situations: What About…?
Cleaning Toys After Anal Use
The anus contains different bacteria than the vagina or mouth. After anal use:
- Clean toys immediately and thoroughly
- Boil non-motorised silicone/glass toys if possible
- Never use an anally-used toy vaginally without thorough sterilization
- Consider keeping dedicated anal toys to avoid cross-contamination
Cleaning Shared Toys
When sharing toys between partners:
- Clean thoroughly between uses
- Use condoms on all shared toys when possible
- Boil non-motorised non-porous toys between users
- If someone has an active infection or STI, do not share toys even with cleaning
Cleaning During Infection
If you’ve had a vaginal infection, UTI, or STI:
- Replace porous toys after infection clears
- Thoroughly sterilize non-porous toys
- Clean toys immediately after each use during treatment
- Consider using condoms on toys during and shortly after infection
Your Toy Cleaning Toolkit
Having the right supplies makes cleaning easier and more effective:
- Mild unscented soap or dedicated toy cleaner
- Clean, soft towels for drying
- Soft brush for textured toys
- Individual storage bags for each toy
- Large pot for boiling (dedicated to toy cleaning)
- Microfibre cloths
Making It A Habit
The best cleaning routine is the one you’ll actually follow. Here’s how to make it easier:
Create a routine: Keep cleaning supplies near where you store your toys. The easier it is, the more likely you’ll do it.
Clean immediately: Don’t let “later” turn into “never”. Clean your toy before you do anything else post-orgasm.
Set reminders: If you’re cleaning toys before use, set them out to dry somewhere you’ll see them.
Make it mindless: Turn on music or a podcast while you clean. It doesn’t have to be a chore.
The Bottom Line
Cleaning your sex toys is an act of self-care and self-respect. You deserve pleasure that’s both satisfying and safe. Taking a few minutes to properly care for your toys means they’ll last longer, work better, and won’t cause you any unwanted infections or irritation.
Your pleasure is important. Your health is important. Both deserve those extra few minutes of care.
If you’re experiencing recurring infections or irritation and think it might be related to your sex toys or sexual practices, consider speaking with a sexual health professional or psychosexual therapist who can provide personalized advice for your situation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I use hand sanitizer to clean my sex toys?
No, hand sanitizer is not recommended for cleaning sex toys. It contains alcohol and other chemicals that can degrade certain materials (especially silicone) and can leave residue that’s harsh on your sensitive bits. Stick to mild soap and water or dedicated toy cleaners.
How do I know if my sex toy is porous or non-porous?
Non-porous materials include medical-grade silicone, glass, Pyrex, stainless steel, and hard ABS plastic. Porous materials include rubber, jelly, PVC, TPE, TPR, and most “realistic” feeling materials. Check the manufacturer’s specifications or product packaging. When in doubt, treat it as porous and use extra caution.
Can I put my vibrator in the dishwasher?
Only if it’s completely waterproof, non-motorised, and made from non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or steel. Place it on the top rack with no detergent or very mild detergent. Most vibrators with motors should never go in the dishwasher as water will damage the electronics.
What’s the best way to dry sex toys after cleaning?
Pat dry with a clean towel or allow to air dry completely on a clean surface. Don’t store toys until they’re thoroughly dry. For toys with texture or ridges, pay extra attention to ensure no moisture remains in the crevices.
How often should I replace my sex toys?
Non-porous materials like silicone and glass can last for years with proper care. Replace them if you notice any damage, tears, or defects. Porous materials like jelly and rubber should be replaced every few months or sooner if they become sticky, discoloured, or develop an odour. Always replace toys after an infection.
Can I clean my sex toys with antibacterial soap?
While antibacterial soap might seem like a good idea, many contain harsh chemicals and fragrances that can irritate your genitals. Mild, unscented soap is just as effective at removing bacteria when combined with warm water and thorough washing. If you want extra antibacterial protection, use a dedicated toy cleaner.
Is it safe to share sex toys with my partner?
Yes, but only with proper precautions. Either use condoms on all shared toys, or clean toys thoroughly between uses. For complete sterilization, boil non-motorised non-porous toys for 3-5 minutes between users. If either partner has an active infection or STI, avoid sharing toys even with cleaning.
What should I do if my sex toy has a weird smell?
A strange smell often indicates bacterial growth or material degradation. If it’s a porous toy, replace it immediately. For non-porous toys, try boiling it (if safe to do so) or washing thoroughly with baking soda and water. If the smell persists, it’s time to retire that toy.
Can I use wipes to clean my sex toys?
Standard baby wipes or antibacterial wipes are not suitable for sex toys as they leave residue and can damage materials. If you want the convenience of wipes, purchase wipes specifically designed for sex toys. However, proper washing with soap and water is more effective and economical.
Do I need to clean my sex toy if I’m the only one using it?
Absolutely yes. Your body naturally contains bacteria, and your genitals produce fluids that can harbour bacteria growth. Even when using toys solo, you need to clean them before and after every use to prevent infections like UTIs, bacterial vaginosis, and yeast infections.
What temperature water should I use to clean sex toys?
Use warm water for most cleaning tasks. Hot water is fine for non-porous materials but can damage porous materials like rubber and jelly. For boiling (sterilization), use boiling water only on non-motorised, non-porous materials like silicone, glass, and steel.
Can I use vinegar to clean my sex toys?
While vinegar is a natural antibacterial agent, it’s not recommended for sex toys. It can degrade certain materials and may not effectively remove all bacteria. Stick to mild soap and water or dedicated toy cleaners for best results.
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