Ruth Heneke Eliot

I hate looking for a therapist. Scrolling through endless profiles that promise non-judgement & safety using various acronyms and undefined modalities is overwhelming for most- including those of us with clinical training!

I offer a free, 30 min consultation in the hope it supports your search for the right person by giving you a clearer indication of whether we’d work well together than anything I can write here…

I’ve been supporting people of all stripes to overcome their sexual & relationship difficulties for over 10 years as an educator, support worker, author & therapist. In that time I’ve learnt just how normal these difficulties are and yet, despite this, most of us feel deeply abnormal, embarrassed and ashamed about them, so much so that we avoid seeking support and remain stuck.

As a sex & relationships therapist, I honour the courage it takes to seek therapy and discuss such personal & sensitive themes with a stranger. I prioritise establishing a warm, friendly & open dynamic with my clients in which we work collaboratively to overcome what’s generating distress and cultivate new insight, skills and confidence to navigate sexual and relational intimacy.

I’m proud of my record of working effectively with a wide range of clients- those with whom I share overt similarities and those with whom I have little obviously in common. The clients I’ve worked with in the UK & South Africa, aged 19-78yrs, represent a huge diversity of identities, experiences, values & cultures. I work affirmatively and sensitively across differences, and understand presenting problems within a culturally-sensitive framework that engages with the relevant factors that exist outside anyone’s individual psychology. I deeply value & am committed to maintaining the diversity of clients in my clinical practice.

If you’re interested in exploring whether I’m the right therapist for you, I look forward to hearing from you. If this doesn’t feel like the right vibe for you, I wish you well on your search.