Masturbation is of course a great solo activity and it should always be included in your self-love routine, but why not do it with someone else?
Personally, mutual masturbation is one of my favourite sex positions, (yes it's not just penetration that's sex) as it super intimate and you both are guaranteed an orgasm!
What is 'Mutual Masturbation'?
Mutual masturbation is when you both touch yourselves together. For some, it may require some vulnerability as you may be sharing something that up until now has been just for you, but it's a great way of increasing intimacy in the bedroom!
What are the benefits of 'Mutual Masturbation'?
If you need of a reason to try this, then let me reel them off:
- It's a great way of inspiring fantasies for later solo sessions.
- Masturbation in general is great for your health, reduces stress, clears your skin and can even improve your heart health!
- It can be great if you're stuck for time and need a quickie, or feeling a little lazy.
- As said before, it can increase intimacy big time - try staring at each other while you climax.
Remember, it's okay to be nervous. Maybe you think your masturbating technique is slightly weird (there is no wrong way to get off btw) or you feel embarrassed or scared. It's totally normal. But remember if you feel comfortable and you wanna try something new, you have nothing to lose!
How Do I Get Started?
The best way to try something new is to talk about it, maybe ask if your partners tried it before or whether it would turn them on and if they'd like to try it.
Once consent is established, start by kissing and when you're both turned on start touching each other and slowly move their hand onto their own and begin.
Verbal communication is great for maintaining consent and checking in. It's also super hot, turn up the heat by dirty talking or simply asking if it feels good.
Make sure you're maintaining contact for as long as you can - it may feel a lil' silly at first but there's nothing wrong with a giggle in bed!
Some popular positions are side by side & at opposite ends of the bed facing each other, legs spread.
Keep it going until you both climax/have had enough. Once you've done it a few times you and your partner will have established the best positions and ways you guys prefer to initiate, the main thing is to make sure you're having fun and getting that pleasure you deserve!
